So, I’m in a bit of a dilemma. Now that I have no chest, there are a multitude of blouses/tops at home that are no longer suitable attire.
I’m referring to the ones that are sewn with boobs in mind – darting here, little extra fabric there, scoop sewing for where a chest should be, the hilarity of a v-neck that goes WAY down now that there’s nothing to hold it up or fill it out, etc…however you want to express it.
So, I’m on a mission to get tops that have little v’s or scoops or plain regular holes. I went to one store and tried on something I thought would work. Who the he** is designing these tops anyway? The sleeves were so tight on my fat upper arms that I was strangling my arms. A lovely, young salesgirl approached and asked if she could help me find something. So I said that I have a situation of no chest, which I think was obvious, and gave her my parameters – not too low, not with built in boob space and room to breathe all the way around, not just the arms.
She comes back with a blouse, box-shape, collar, but with pockets at the breast area. So I said to her, “I’m sorry. I can’t wear that. I don’t mind that I’m flat-chested for the most part, but why would I bring attention to the fact that I have no boobs and am not likely to have boobs again for a very long time?” I did laugh with her though, to take any sting out of my words, but after that the poor girl was a little flustered.
On the positive side, I did come up with three tops that are dressy enough for work – just not at that store.
I’m always somewhat flummoxed by what I’ve never thought of before. I guess if you aren’t living it, you don’t think it.
There is NO clothing industry working on clothing for women who have had a double mastectomy and who are not interested in falsies or fluffies.
Lord, the battles are mounting. What or how do I educate and change the way things are done or how people think? I’m a few bars short of miracle-worker here. I just don’t know where to begin. Changes to breast self-exams; changes to the LTD process at work; changes to the clothing industry…Sigh. It wears me out just thinking about it all.